Are Men Necessary; When Sexes Collide

July 18th, 2008

Has any one read Are Men Necessary? When Sexes Collide. Washington based Pulitzer Prize-winning columnist for the New York Times – is known for being “a girlie girl, being shy, but most of all for being, at age 53, still single (is being single the cause of her bitterness about men, one may wonder). With her sexy good looks and nonstop ability to weave words on themselves, she is said to be shy everywhere but on the page. In discussing the roles women and men play in relating to one another, writer who is famous for being intent on keeping her private life out of the public eye yields details about her own life that have usually been left out of consideration in her writings. Maureen Dowd’s title is very descriptive if one was to judge a book by its cover. Title features a candy for male eyes. It shows bombshell in a clingy red dress strap-hanging under the leering gaze of her fellow subway riders, all male. Below such an image, the subtitle, “When Sexes Collide,” seems suggesting an unending tug of war between both sexes from “dating, to flirting, to hanging out, to hooking up, to marriage and her belief that men don’t like to wed successful women.”

Men and women, she concludes, “are still in a muddle in the boardroom, the Situation Room and the bedroom.” She is clearly bitter about men. She admits she has no answers. Only questions.Though the book only reflects modern western and upper class segmnent of society but this question is universal: Are Men Necessary? Every one needs to ask herself / himself and answer in own context.

Chapter from the book linked in this post: What’s a Modern Girl to Do?

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Rosy prospects

July 18th, 2008

Dr. Kalpana Sahni

Not long ago a friend of mine in Lahore asked for a catchy title for an exhibition to be held in London. She was not impressed by my suggestions so I asked an Indian professor in Mexico to help. By the evening he had sent half a dozen options. All this activity between Pakistan, India and Mexico was over e-mail.

There is another incident I recall. I was reading a wonderful, but rather depressing contemporary Russian novel and was getting frustrated by the unfamiliar slang. Then I hit upon the idea of emailing the slang to a friend in Moscow who sent me a continuous feedback. Now imagine the Internet’s use in quite another setting. The girl is on the computer and a woman arrives at her desk with a live chicken and explains how her chickens have all suddenly developed a walking problem and points to the crooked legs. With difficulty, the girl and the woman get the restless chicken to stand still. A photo is taken of its legs and transmitted to a computer at another destination. The response comes in a couple of hours. The chickens have vitamin B deficiency and a remedy is provided.Later in the day, the girl looks up the e-astrology charts for some enthusiastic women or writes complaints to various government departments, or requests a birth certificate for a child that is entering school. This remarkable girl’s name is Rosy of village Padinettamkudi, 35 kilometres from the nearest town in Tamil Nadu.

Rosy uses her computer to also make railway bookings for a man; set up the web cam and recorder for a woman’s appointed time to talk to her son in the Gulf; she then contacts a city hospital to set up an appointment for a cataract operation. Come evening, Rosy is conducting adult literacy classes for the villagers, and at weekends — English language classes for children. Folks, I can go on and on … I am thrilled to bits about the silent revolution that is spreading across rural India. Rosy is just one of the many trained computer operators who earn some Rs4000 per month. The computer has arrived in deep rural India.An enterprising team of scientists and alumni from the Indian Institute of Technology, Madras initiated a programme, which would provide Internet access to rural India. Known as n-Logue this rural Internet Service provider launched its programme some years ago in Tamil Nadu. Today it covers most of South India, Gujarat, Rajasthan and Jharkand with the aim of providing Internet access to every Indian village. That means targeting over 700 million people. A bank loan of Rs50, 000 to purchase the computer and its accessories, including a printer, a web camera, a four-hour battery backup and software was given to each kiosk operator. Villagers were trained to become kiosk operators and a software programme was developed. Some hospitals and doctors helped by providing basic training and questionnaires for the operators and they simultaneously conducted regular weekly videoconferencing with patients.Now farmers are interacting with agricultural research institutes and veterinary institutes to find quick solutions to pests and animal ailments. For instance, a Tamilian farmer photographed a diseased bhindi on the web cam. This was emailed to the Madurai Rural Agriculture Centre, which e-mailed back the remedy.

More and more farmers, by turning to www for market information, thus avoiding middlemen, are selling their food crops directly at auction centres, which offer better returns. The chanderi weavers, once impoverished by middlemen, got organised into a weavers’ guild. Today they sell directly to their customers through the net and to shops like Fabindia. The guild now makes profits in millions of rupees. Bellandur village near Bangalore has become India’s first e-governed village panchayat administration, covering five villages and some 10,000 people. Government data like tax collection, birth and death certificates, details of property are now available on the net. Consequently the registration of land has become simple. Bureaucratic delays, bribery and corruption have been minimized. According to Mr Jagannath, the elected president of the village and the initiator of e-governance, “Revenue loopholes have been plugged. All government records are available at the click of a button”. And then there is the immense opportunity opening up in education. n-Logue diversified into games, music, painting and fiction for children and children’s publishing houses like Tulika have made books available in multiple languages for the village networks. On Sundays these hubs turn into libraries and activity centres for children.

Interestingly, the majority of kiosk operators are girls or women. Drishtee is spreading e-governance, health and education in rural areas through the net. In September the Government of India announced its plan of setting up 100,000 rural kiosks to serve 600,000 villages. In short, the possibilities that are opening up to villagers through the net are bringing about an exciting change which promises to turn them from areas of outward migration to places of well being and prosperity.

G T Road

July 17th, 2008

Travelling on Grand Trunk Road all my life, it captured my imagination as a cultural curiosity when I read Rudyard Kipling’s Kim. At the beginning of the last century Kipling called it “a wonderful spectacle…. without crowding…. green-arched, shade-flecked … a river of life.” But Pakistan’s National Highway Number 5 (N-5), alias the Grand Trunk Road, or simply the GT Road, presents a different impression now. Commuting up and down the GT Road are caravans of trucks, buses, cars, animals and animal transport also auto-rickshaws, all having equal right of the way. On the GT Road every bus, truck, and a car must pass the vehicle ahead. “The GT Road,” a veteran traveller John Otto wrote says, “really belongs to the trucker.” And he is right in a way.

So much has changed since Kipling’s description of the GT Road, which he saw “brimming with all manner of travellers — rich merchants with elephants and camels laden with merchandise, guarded by retainers. The aristocracy on colourful horses and elephants with gilded howdahs for the ladies, their silk drapes fluttering in the wind, the raggle taggle of the gypsies roaming from one village to the next in search of food and work.” The old identities have steadily defused by the common objectives for prosperity and development. Since partition, the new social and economic objectives have been the major engines of change. The only thing that still remains on this strategic, economic and cultural artery of Pakistan is that it is “the river of life.”

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Drs. Miklos and Moore – World Renowned Surgeons

July 17th, 2008

There are so many myths and unfounded fears about laser surgery. Presntly, the new wave of advancements and surge in awareness has created a new interest in plastic surgery. More and more people are benefiting from the new plastic surgery procedure now. Thanks to Dr. Miklos and Dr. Moore, internationally renowned surgeons in Atlanta - that they are playing an important role in creating awareness. Both the experts have performed labia reduction surgery and vagina surgery surgery in 46 states and 23 countries. Explore the Internet’s most comprehensive web site (mature contents) and see what they are offering and how can they help

Life in the Base Camps

July 14th, 2008

Climbing the mountain had been on my mind for almost all my life, particularly ever since I did a course in Rock Repelling and trekked some softer mountains up in the North. Let me hasten to add that yet I have not climbed K 2 or Nanga Parbat — icons of Pakistani climbing, as identifiable and as famous as the Mount Everest. But I have been pretty close to them, at the distance that seemed nearly close enough to touch their summits. As a mountain lover, I had lived some of my life in the base camps of these majestic mountains and some others in Northern Pakistan; with some famous mountaineers, explorers and adventurers from all over the world or alone.

Life at all base camps is almost the same. Mess tents are the best places in the base camps where every one huddles like a living rooms. It usually is a hole climbers dig in the snow or rocks and cover it with tarp or it is a natural cubby hole behind and in between rocks. “You eat and drink (hot tea, coffee) your way to the top,” is a way of life with climbers. Climbers get up early in the morning because moving early in the morning is essential for crossing snow bridges that melt in the midday sun.

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Zenni Stands Out

July 14th, 2008

Zenni  uses know that Zenni Optical was on FOX news. What makes Zenni stand out? Their quality and prices.

Prescription eyeglasses are most commonly used item. Like one of my friends needs three sets of eyeglasses at a time; one in the office, one at home and one in his briefcase. Thanks to Zenni Optical that they offer cheap and stylish prescription eyeglasses, lenses and other assessories. Have a look at great collection of eyeglasses including Incredible Stylish New Frames From Zenni. Their prices are very affordable. I liked Zenni Optical $ 8 Rx Eyeglasses. See what they are offering and how?

My {Low} eMails

July 12th, 2008

Honestly, I miss letters. A letter delivered by a postman, with its lines of handwriting, loops and angles that give a reflection of personality and, perhaps, secrets tucked inside the letters. Waiting for the postman to find a letter is old fashioned but many cherish still. Then opening letters, reading, and reading them again. There is a romance in writing and receiving letters that seems almost entirely lost to people particularly those who inhabit the cyberspace in this information era.

The switch to email and instant messaging has created an entirely new kind of language - of shorthand, emoticons (term coined by joining two words emotions and icons), graphics, and poor or nonexistent grammar, and missing punctuation, computer slang. It has also given birth to another kind of romance: cyberspace romance. This is about that.

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